British American Household Staffing

KP784 - Full-Time Live-In Domestic Couple - Southampton, NY

Job Locations US-NY-Southampton
Posted Date 2 weeks ago(3/28/2026 10:49 AM)
Job Reference Code
KP784
# of Openings
1
Category
Other

Overview

A private family is seeking an experienced, highly professional live-in domestic couple to oversee the full-time management and operation of their Southampton estate (15,000 square foot). This is a high-touch, process driven environment which combines property and project management with housekeeping and hospitality. The owners require a couple capable of delivering five-star service, maintaining impeccable property standards, and ensuring seamless execution of both daily operations and frequent entertaining.

 

While the position operates within a structured family office framework, with defined reporting lines, the couple is expected to operate with a high degree of autonomy while maintaining clear communication and accountability. The ideal candidates are proactive, detail-oriented, discreet, and capable of managing a dynamic household with consistency and professionalism.

 

Schedule & Accommodations

  • In-Season (June–October): Full-time plus flexibility, including evenings, weekends, and holidays while principals are in residence
  • Off-Season (November–May): Structured, lower-intensity schedule focused on maintenance, planning, and projects (generally Monday–Friday, except holidays or scheduled visits)
  • Time Off: Two days per week (In-Season schedule based on household needs)
  • Accommodation: Private apartment with separate entrance (bedroom, bathroom, living area, kitchenette, laundry access)

This is a long-term, career-oriented opportunity within a structured, well-supported household environment. The family values professionalism, consistency, discretion, and high standards, and seeks a couple who will take pride in managing the estate to an exceptional level.

Responsibilities

1.Estate Operations & Property Management (Primary Focus)

  • Serve as primary on-site operators responsible for the full functionality of the estate, vendors, subcontractors, and support staff
  • Maintain the property to exceptional standards, with emphasis on reliability, efficiency, and preventative care
  • Develop, implement, and manage comprehensive preventative maintenance programs across all systems:
    • HVAC, plumbing, electrical
    • Pool and spa systems
    • AV/IT and smart home systems
    • Security systems
    • Irrigation and landscaping infrastructure
  • Conduct routine inspections across main house (3 floors), guest house, pool deck, and grounds
  • Identify and resolve issues proactively before escalation

Mechanical, Hands-On & Physical Responsibilities

  • Perform hands-on maintenance and light repair work where appropriate
  • Demonstrate comfort working with tools, equipment, and basic mechanical systems
  • Support physically demanding aspects of the role, including:
    • Property upkeep across multiple structures and levels
    • Outdoor maintenance and seasonal preparation
    • Setup and breakdown for events and guest stays
  • Maintain overall readiness and functionality of all property components

Vendor Management & Project Coordination

  • Serve as primary point of contact for all vendors and service providers
  • Schedule, supervise, and evaluate contractors to ensure high-quality execution
  • Maintain vendor accountability on scope, timing, and cost control

Systems, Organization & Process Implementation

  • Establish and maintain structured systems for property management, including:
    • Maintenance logs and service schedules
    • Inventory tracking and supply management
    • Vendor records and service history
  • Utilize digital tools (apps, shared systems, task tracking) to ensure organization and transparency
  • Continuously improve operational processes to enhance efficiency and reliability

Grounds, Facilities & Exterior Management

  • Oversee all aspects of exterior property condition, including:
    • Landscaping, irrigation, and hardscape
    • Pool and outdoor entertaining areas
  • Ensure property is consistently clean, functional, and presentation-ready
  • Coordinate seasonal transitions (summer readiness, winterization, storm prep)

2.Hospitality & Service (Secondary Focus)

The principals maintain an active social calendar with frequent entertaining, including a minimum of two dinner parties per week during the season, as well as regular house guests and high-profile visitors. The Domestic Couple will be responsible for supporting a refined, consistent, and anticipatory hospitality experience comparable to a luxury boutique hotel or private club.

 

Entertaining & Event Execution

  • In conjunction with a full-time In-Season chef, plan and support multiple weekly dinners and gatherings with precision and consistency.
  • Candidates will be expected to autonomously manage food prep, cooking and service for the principals (two) and occasional family / guests (up to six) when the full-time chef is off duty or unavailable.
  • Coordinate with principals on menus, guest preferences, and service style paying special attention to food sensitivities (eggplant allergy, chemical sensitivity, process food aversion, etc)  
  • Engage and support full-time chef, manage external caterers, vendors, and service staff as needed
  • Support full event lifecycle: planning, setup, service, breakdown, and reset

Guest Experience & House Guest Management

  • Serve as primary on-site hosts ensuring guests receive attentive, discreet service
  • Prepare guest suites to hotel-level standards with personalized touches
  • Provide daily housekeeping, light laundry (as appropriate), and turndown service
  • Coordinate guest logistics including transportation, reservations, and activities

Standards & Presentation

  • Maintain a consistent five-star presentation of all living and entertaining spaces
  • Execute formal and informal table settings with precision and attention to detail
  • Ensure all service ware, linens, and décor are maintained and event-ready

Hospitality Staff Coordination

  • Supervise temporary staff during events and ensure service standards are met
  • Maintain preferred vendor lists and continuously improve hospitality execution

Household Maintenance & Housekeeping

  • Maintain all interior spaces to immaculate condition at all times using approved cleaning products
  • Care for fine materials including marble, antiques, wood finishes, and specialty surfaces
  • Perform daily housekeeping, laundry, ironing, steaming, and organization
  • Manage closets, linens, and household inventories
  • Ensure the residence is consistently guest-ready
  • Pet bird care, feeding, medicine administration, and hospitality maintenance

Grounds, Facilities & Light Maintenance

  • Perform light handyman duties and coordinate specialized vendors
  • Oversee landscaping, pool, and exterior property conditions
  • Conduct routine inspections to proactively identify and resolve issues
  • Ensure vehicles are cleaned, maintained, and ready for use

Transportation & Errands

  • Drive principals and guests as needed
  • Manage grocery shopping, provisioning, and household errands
  • Coordinate deliveries, shipping, and logistics

Technology & Systems

  • Operate and troubleshoot home systems (Crestron, Sonos, security, Wi-Fi)
  • Utilize household management tools (calendar systems, messaging platforms, task tracking)
  • Support basic IT troubleshooting and vendor coordination
  • Conduct online purchasing and inventory management

Division of Responsibilities (Typical):

 

Partner 1 – Operations / Facilities Focus

  • Vendor management, maintenance oversight, driving, exterior systems

Partner 2 – Hospitality / Interior Focus

  • Housekeeping, laundry, guest service, interior presentation

(Both partners are expected to be cross-functional and collaborative.)

Qualifications

 

Key Success Factors

  • Absolute discretion, integrity, and trustworthiness
  • Strong sense of ownership and pride in maintaining the estate
  • Ability to anticipate needs and operate proactively
  • High attention to detail and consistency of execution
  • Professional, warm, and non-obtrusive demeanor
  • Strong organizational and communication skills
  • Ability to thrive in a high-frequency entertaining environment
  • Special attention to the principals’ chemical sensitivities / no scented personal care products

Requirements

  • Minimum 3–7+ years’ experience in a similar UHNW household or luxury hospitality role
  • Demonstrated longevity with prior employers
  • Valid driver’s licenses with clean records
  • Ability to pass comprehensive background checks
  • Strong English communication skills
  • Legally authorized to work in the United States

Salary and Benefits

 

Base salary: $200-$250k++

 

Performance Bonus (Discretionary Annual)

  • Target: 5–10% of base compensation
  • Based on the following objectives:
    • In-season property condition and readiness
    • Principal satisfaction
    • Vendor management efficiency and cost control
    • Communication, responsiveness, and reliability

Benefits

  • Private housing provided (separate apartment)
  • Health insurance stipend and/or reimbursement`
  • Paid time off
  • Retirement benefits (e.g., Simple IRA with employer match after eligibility period)

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